The title kind of says it all. The most truthful thing is when you have total trust in another person. I've said on here it isn't hard to gain my trust...that was a lie. Very few people have ever fully gained my trust. Probably around three or four ever.
For me trust is based off of a lot of different variables. The main ones being love and respect. I can't fully trust a person if I don't love them in some sense of the word. There also has to be a certain level of respect for that person for me to trust him or her.
If I don't respect a person I can't expect them to have my best intentions in mind, and if they don't have my best intentions in mind how can I trust them? The same goes for love. Not only do I have to love the person, but I have to feel loved by them. Maybe it isn't love so much as it is care. If I can tell that a person truly cares about me then I have trust in them.
Other factors include past experiences with the person and what I feel their intentions are.
Before I share something with someone I judge whether or not I feel they are in it for their own personal betterment. Some people come to your aid only to help themselves. They don't say that is the case, but oftentimes they want nothing more than to see what you're up to and make sure they're a leg up.
Obviously previous encounters play a huge part in trust too. If a person acts in a deceitful way or a way that hurts you, the chances are you will not fully trust them again.
Some people are just easier to trust than others. Maybe that's because we know immediately who is in control of a situation. We're naturally disposed to trust certain people easier. People who have a lot to hide can either be really easy to trust or really hard to trust. If they're going to confide in you, then more than likely you'll return the favor. Then you keep the playing field level.
I guess trust is a power struggle of sorts. It's about feeling in control of all that you have. You won't give up that power to just anyone. It has to be someone you feel won't hurt you or someone you have something on. It's a see-saw where the person in control can shift quite easily.
The truth of the matter is that truly trustworthy people are few and far between, that secrets shared with one person usually reach the ears of the masses, and that it's a lot easier to lose trust than gain it.
That doesn't mean you can't trust everyone. There are good people out there.
My trust is like my debit card, I wouldn't hand it out to somebody unless I knew for certain they weren't going to abuse it.
With my trust comes my heart. So if i've given you my trust, you also have at least some part of my heart. Break one and the other shatters along with it.
Quite the responsibility, huh? I trust you though.
NP: Hey There Delilah- Plain White T's
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