In many cases moving from one extreme to another can be the best thing for you. For instance if you leave an abusive relationship and find someone who truly cares for you. That's jumping from the lowest point to one of the highest. A necessary change of extreme proportions. In that case going from one extreme to another is good.
Likewise if you move in the opposite direction it is not good. Not just not good, very bad actually.
Another example would be this: control of your emotions. I love emotional people, don't get me wrong, but there is something to be said about stability and consistency. Not to say that someone can't be consistently volatile, but being consistently level headed is a good thing to be. I can't tell you not to go from one extreme to another in emotions because we all know that there are certain things that will set a person off. We all have that fuse, be it long or short, we have it, it just has to be found. So in the case of emotional extremes it depends. If you have reason for your emotions to sway then by all means let them sway, but if you're one of those people changing their emotions solely to keep people guessing, that isn't cool. Emotional extremes, undetermined.
Another thought passed through my head...love. I believe that you love an individual, not a certain type, and while there may be certain things you look for, each person has a different affect on you. What that means is this: you can love extremely different people for extremely different reasons. I love my friend Ty because he's unpredictable as hell, I love Dave because he's usually pretty level headed, I love Schweins because he's never serious, and I love Jared because he's somewhere in between the three. I love my mom for different reasons than I love Jenny. I've had two girlfriends my whole life and I don't think I loved them for nearly the same reasons. You can fall in love with the bad boy or bad girl and then go for the scholarly nerd if you want. You could be enticed by the humblest of people and at the same time drawn to the arrogant ones too. Love is funny because you'll never love two people the exact same way. Love in the extremes is fine, so long as you're being loved and loving the right way. Never love because you feel you should, never fake love, and if you choose to love do it with everything you have.
I guess the final, major extreme I can think of comes in our decision making. Some people always take a risk, some people never do, and even more probably fall somewhere in between the two. You can make an extremely rash decision one day and then methodically plan out a decision the next. You can choose to live life on the edge on Monday, but choose to lay low for the other six days if you want. I'm not recommending people make stupid decisions, I'm just saying that people make extremely different choices all the time. People make decisions based on love, on lust, on morals, or on gut feeling. Sometimes those decisions will contradict one another and that's totally understandable. Different emotions will bring about different actions. We have conflicting emotions so sometimes we will have conflicting actions. Living life in the extremes can be a great thing if you do it right. If all the risks you take pay off and all the decisions not to risk it don't haunt you then living in the extremes will benefit you greatly. Unfortunately we don't know ahead of time which risks are the good and which are the bad. I encourage a life in the extremes, so long as you are always conscious of the possibilities, be them good or bad.
I think jumping from one extreme to another can be good or maybe even great, but at the same time it can be bad or horrendous. Each situation is different and each person will feel differently about it. Maybe the only way to know if it's good or not is to try it out and see. Maybe jump from one extreme to another and see where you stand. If you don't like it see if you have any ways back. If not...well then you're shit out of luck. Every decision we make will teach us something if we let it.
Live, misstep, and learn. Love, falter, and grow.
Only through missteps and faltering will we ever become.
Become what you might ask?
That's for your missteps to decide.
NP: Everything Has Changed- Taylor Swift ft. Ed Sheeran
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