So I've been home alone all day since my parents & Jenny are on their way to a wedding. I would've gone, but PCB was supposed to have a series of games in Syracuse this weekend that got cancelled pretty last minute. So for the most part I've spent my day on the couch watching television shows and movies. I started with Die Hard, watched some Rugby, some Antiques Roadshow, and finished off with some Criminal Minds.
While watching Criminal Minds there was a quote at the end of an episode that I really agreed with. It goes like this...
"There are things we don't want to happen but have to accept. Things we don't want to know but have to learn. People we can't live without but have to let go."
I think each part of that is true in its own respect so I'll talk about each one individually.
First, "there are things we don't want to happen but have to accept." I guess you could say this sums up my opinion of things when the world seems to be crashing down. In my life I have met a lot of people who stick to the idea that "everything happens for a reason." I'm not one of those people. I don't think that things like the Holocaust or Columbine happened for a reason. Or on a different level something like childhood cancer. You can't give me one good reason why senseless violence or innocent kids dying has to happen. Now I do believe that we can learn from everything that happens. With that being said, I still don't think learning from something like that is a reason for it to happen. Wouldn't the world be a better place had we never learned what mass murder or genocide was? Wouldn't those lives outweigh any knowledge gained? However, awful things happen and evil does exist, and we just have to learn to accept them as they happen.
"Things we don't want to know but have to learn." I think this goes hand in hand with what I just stated. As we navigate the course of our life we have to learn things we wish we didn't. That's just a part of growing up. Growing up entails a lot of different truths: truths about people and the world around you, truths about your family, and truths about yourself. Sometimes those truths will be ugly, horrible truths and sometimes they'll be spectacular, awe-inspiring truths...but I guess I don't totally agree with the last part of this statement that says "HAVE to learn." Sometime when I was growing up my mom told me a story about the priest at her wedding. She said that the priest told her there were some things better left unsaid. He told her that if it's going to make someone's life better for them to not know then they don't need to know. And I guess I agree with him. Some truths are better left in the back of your mind because sometimes people need to be protected from truths that could hurt them.
And now, "People we can't live without but have to let go." If you asked me six months ago if I agreed with this statement I'd have a much different answer than I do today. I think that in life we meet four different types of people: people who are just supposed to brush up against us, people supposed to be there for one specific situation, people who come into our lives for a while who have to leave, and people who we'd be stupid not to keep around forever. The brusher uppers are people we pass by on the street and give a friendly hello to. One situation people are the people we meet in high school, at a job, or in college who we have no real connection to but are forced to be around. The ones who have to leave are who the quote is about. They're the people who we learn to love that we can't seem to live without. But the truth of the matter is that we're supposed to live without them, we have to live without them. These are the people you can tell aren't content with what you have to offer or maybe they're at a different stage of their life than you. They're the hardest to let go of because a lot of time, when they leave, we aren't sure why they left. Finally, It should be obvious who we're supposed to keep around forever...they're the people we see ourselves reflected in, the people who bring out the very best in us, and the people who see us for what we really are. Don't let them go. They come in handy.
That's all I have for today.
NP: JOY- Elli Goulding
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