Whether you refer to her as mom, mommy, momma, mum, mumsy, mammy, or any other variation of 'mother' she is the one who brought you into this world. Once a year we celebrate the special ladies in our life who we couldn't be here without...literally.
I like to think that not a single day goes by that I take my mom for granted but surely there are. However, I never forget to tell her that I love her at least once a day.
Truth be told somewhere between the time I turned 13 and the time I turned 19 my mom went from being the woman I kept all my secrets from to the lady I trust with everything going on in my life. I tell my mom almost everything and I'm completely comfortable with it that way. She's comfortable listening and comfortable telling me exactly how she feels about what I've told her.
Mother's Day makes me miss my Nan a lot. I know that it's even more present in the mind's of my mom and her brothers and sister. I miss Nan a ton but I'll see my grandmother today. Joyce wasn't the woman who gave birth to my mom, but just because she isn't blood doesn't mean she doesn't count. Joyce is my grandmother, Nan is my grandmother, and Grammy is my grandmother. I'm just fortunate enough to have a third grandma I guess.
So if you're reading this today, stop. Close your laptop, shut down your computer, or put away your phone. Go give your mom a hug and a kiss and tell her you love her. If you can't see your mom today give her a call. If you can't see or call your mom then set aside some quiet time and think about her.
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there.
Especially to mine. Thanks for everything you've taught me and showed me, mom. I'm more thankful than you could possibly know.
NP: Dear Mama- Tupac
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Saturday, May 11, 2013
dark knight thoughts
Hopefully everyone reading this has seen The Dark Knight, but if you haven't I'll supply you with the basis for this blog. At one point in the movie Harvey Dent says to Bruce Wayne, "You either die a hero or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain." In the movie Harvey Dent becomes that villain, but I think the idea applies to life in general.
It isn't true in all cases because plenty of times heroes live long lives and die the hero that they had always been.
However, in select cases what Mr. Dent said is true.
Like the case of fighting for what you believe is right. You fight endlessly for what you want and think is right, but sometimes somewhere along the way your fight for "right" is snagged. Your idea and the fight for that idea aren't flawed in their course or nature, but flawed because those around you aren't aware of what's taking place. You don't mean to harm anyone but sometimes you do. You don't mean for people to be pushed away but sometimes they are.
Without realizing it you've become a villain to the very same people you wanted to protect. It's not something you meant to do, but it's something that happened. And given the chance to go back and change what you did you wouldn't.
Not because your ego is in the way but because you know that the fight you had mapped out deep down in your heart was the right fight.
In a sense you're okay with watching yourself become the villain.
Because you know that the villain everyone else sees is just a hero who couldn't save them all.
Not because he didn't try, but because they didn't want or need to be saved.
Heroes learn the hard way that everyone can't be saved. Whether it's not saving someone who needed to be saved or trying to save someone who doesn't.
Don't feel sorry for the heroes that become villains because they wouldn't want you to. They know that it takes far greater a man to fight past the point he is needed than to give up when he thinks is right.
He also knows that strength isn't always recognized accordingly because oftentimes our greatest strength is also our greatest weakness.
I guess the point of this whole thing is that whether you die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become a villain the important matter is that you have that little bit of hero inside you. You won't be everyone's hero and quite simply you don't need to be. Find those worth fighting for and don't quit until you're successful. People will tell you that you're doing it wrong, but by standing by they're more of a villain than you'll ever be.
Do what you think is right and in some way or another you'll be a hero. Just realize you might not be recognized for it.
And always remember that villains aren't those who care too much, villains are those who don't care enough.
NP: So Appalled- Kanye and a whole gang of people
It isn't true in all cases because plenty of times heroes live long lives and die the hero that they had always been.
However, in select cases what Mr. Dent said is true.
Like the case of fighting for what you believe is right. You fight endlessly for what you want and think is right, but sometimes somewhere along the way your fight for "right" is snagged. Your idea and the fight for that idea aren't flawed in their course or nature, but flawed because those around you aren't aware of what's taking place. You don't mean to harm anyone but sometimes you do. You don't mean for people to be pushed away but sometimes they are.
Without realizing it you've become a villain to the very same people you wanted to protect. It's not something you meant to do, but it's something that happened. And given the chance to go back and change what you did you wouldn't.
Not because your ego is in the way but because you know that the fight you had mapped out deep down in your heart was the right fight.
In a sense you're okay with watching yourself become the villain.
Because you know that the villain everyone else sees is just a hero who couldn't save them all.
Not because he didn't try, but because they didn't want or need to be saved.
Heroes learn the hard way that everyone can't be saved. Whether it's not saving someone who needed to be saved or trying to save someone who doesn't.
Don't feel sorry for the heroes that become villains because they wouldn't want you to. They know that it takes far greater a man to fight past the point he is needed than to give up when he thinks is right.
He also knows that strength isn't always recognized accordingly because oftentimes our greatest strength is also our greatest weakness.
I guess the point of this whole thing is that whether you die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become a villain the important matter is that you have that little bit of hero inside you. You won't be everyone's hero and quite simply you don't need to be. Find those worth fighting for and don't quit until you're successful. People will tell you that you're doing it wrong, but by standing by they're more of a villain than you'll ever be.
Do what you think is right and in some way or another you'll be a hero. Just realize you might not be recognized for it.
And always remember that villains aren't those who care too much, villains are those who don't care enough.
NP: So Appalled- Kanye and a whole gang of people
Friday, May 3, 2013
on point
I was thinking a lot today about what people think about other people. So many people pretend they don't care what anyone thinks about them, but very few mean that. Almost everybody cares what someone's impression of them is. It's human nature to care about your reputation and the name you bear. I guess where some people go wrong (in my opinion) is with who they worry about. In my eyes what it comes down to is what those closest to you think about you. If your best friends were asked their honest opinions of you what response would they give? If it's a positive answer then you're doing it right. If it isn't, that doesn't mean they aren't your best friends, it means they see a potential flaw or trait they aren't fond of. Your best friends will be the most likely to give an accurate and truthful answer, even more so than parents because they aren't biased by the whole "I raised them and therefore they must be perfect" complex. I'm not saying a person should change who they are to meet the demands of their friends, but what I am saying is that if you're going to worry about someone's opinion of you, worry about your friend's opinion first. Oftentimes people get caught up worrying about what people with a better status think. Don't aim to impress people that others are impressed with, aim to impress your friends. Impress them to the highest degree and then maybe, just maybe, you can begin worrying about others.
I think that the moment I'm the most narcissistic is the moment I leave a group. I'm talking about anytime you're caught up in a group conversation or are just hanging out with friends. The moment you stand up and leave is when you're the most vulnerable. The second the door swings shut the first thing that pops into my mind is "I wonder". What I'm wondering is if after I've left the group has any say on me leaving or on me in general. Things like, "Man I wish Tom could've stayed longer," or, "you know, Tom is a good guy." Do those types of things ever leave their mouths or enter their minds? I know that's slightly narcissistic of me, but it's the honest to god truth of what I think. Every time I leave I hope that the people I left behind have only positive things to say. That probably isn't the case in every situation which is fine because I'm flawed. Everybody won't like me and everybody doesn't have to like me.
I just hope the people close to me have good things to say about me about my funeral. I don't want it to be any more sad than it has to be.
Be sincere to those closest to you. Being anything else just isn't being.
NP: The Gambler- Fun.
I think that the moment I'm the most narcissistic is the moment I leave a group. I'm talking about anytime you're caught up in a group conversation or are just hanging out with friends. The moment you stand up and leave is when you're the most vulnerable. The second the door swings shut the first thing that pops into my mind is "I wonder". What I'm wondering is if after I've left the group has any say on me leaving or on me in general. Things like, "Man I wish Tom could've stayed longer," or, "you know, Tom is a good guy." Do those types of things ever leave their mouths or enter their minds? I know that's slightly narcissistic of me, but it's the honest to god truth of what I think. Every time I leave I hope that the people I left behind have only positive things to say. That probably isn't the case in every situation which is fine because I'm flawed. Everybody won't like me and everybody doesn't have to like me.
I just hope the people close to me have good things to say about me about my funeral. I don't want it to be any more sad than it has to be.
Be sincere to those closest to you. Being anything else just isn't being.
NP: The Gambler- Fun.
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